If the relationship between you and your spouse has seriously deteriorated, chances are good that you won’t be able to cooperatively work to find solutions to issues that need to be addressed in your divorce. Once contention arises between spouses, it can be difficult to get the emotions “out of the way” long enough to make decisions about important topics like:
Legally speaking, if you are and your spouse cannot work together to hammer out a settlement, your divorce will be considered “contested.” Just because a divorce is contested certainly doesn’t mean that you are doomed to spend hundreds of hours and thousands of dollars fighting it out in court, though. Some couples start out not being able to agree on any of the vital issues needed to dissolve their marriage, but can find solutions once they get into the process of divorce, often before they ever step foot in a courtroom.
Others find that working with a mediator or other neutral third party extremely helpful in getting them to look past any anger, hurt or anxiety they are feeling to focus on what is important. Mediated settlements are often useful when there are children involved, because they can help couples start their divorced lives in a civil, cordial manner, something that is crucial for co-parenting. State law requires all Florida couples seeking a divorce to attempt mediation before their case goes to trial.
Uncontested divorces are just that: uncontested. This means that the couple is able to agree on most or all of the important issues and just needs to go through the legal process of having their marriage dissolved. Obviously, finding workable solutions without the need for judicial intervention is simpler, results in a settlement agreement that is less stressful, for the family, makes the process of co-parenting easier, and is cheaper a highly contested divorce.
In a perfect world, people who decide to end their marriages would always do so with civility and respect, and all of the parties involved would find the process liberating instead of defeating. Unfortunately, that is just not the case. A divorce can be messy, emotional and stressful. It can be hard to put aside emotions, even when doing so could lead to a fresh start.